Courting Your Spec

So, you got someone you’re really interested in, and they have a lot of qualities that you believe will help a relationship to not only grow, but flourish. I presume this is someone you’ve been taking the time to talk to God about as well. If you have been taking the right steps to move intentionally in your dating journey, then I’m sure the next thing you’re thinking about is how to move towards an actual relationship. I want to note that there isn’t necessarily a timeframe between talking with someone initially and when a relationship should start; the key is how your time together is spent. At a certain point though, you will have to take the bold step to officially declare this person as your boyfriend or girlfriend.

Dating Nowadays: Do You Want to Secure Future Bae? (Part 2)

And the finale has finally arrived! Let’s close out the series, shall we?

Stop Carrying Old Baggage

How can you expect to build something solid with someone on a shaky foundation? You’re mixing your old baggage and unresolved past hurt into this bond you’re developing, and it’s going to end in the connection falling apart. This new individual you are looking to potentially create a future with is not the cause of your past heartbreak, nor should they be held accountable for it. That means that if you want things to go smoothly and you want what you two build to last, you need to get yourself right. That means you need to check yourself first and ensure you have a clean slate before opening yourself up to someone else.

Dating Nowadays: Oh, You Still Single? (Part 2)

Welcome back! If you haven’t read the first part of this series, I strongly recommend you go back and finish that piece before starting this one. If you have, let’s keep the list going!

My Hiatus of Solitude [Part 1: The Journey]

I had a lot of trouble writing this post, because each time I started, questions began to flood my mind. How do I fit 5 months of experience into one post? How do I keep it concise enough that people actually read it entirely? Did I gain as much from my fast of solitude as I wanted, or claim? The truth is, I can’t guarantee the right answers for all of these questions because everyone will have their own interpretation of what I have to share. But, I think it’s been put on my heart to say something since I came out of my fast with a new, refreshed, and solidified mindset. My hope is that even if you aren’t Christian, my takeaways will resonate with you in the same manner they did with me. This fast opened my eyes to many things, and I hope it does for you as well.

Cuffing Szn - Did You Make the Draft?

As if Hurricane Harvey and Irma weren’t bad enough, another potential problem has just surfaced - cuffing season: the 5th, unrecognized season that is now an actual thing. For those who don’t know what cuffing season is, traditionally, it is the time of the year when people start looking for someone with whom they can brave those frigid Winter nights. From the application process, to the scouting period, to the tryouts, to the draft, and beyond, cuffing season has become quite a time to be alive. But just as it provides a great deal of benefits, especially for those in school, it can also have numerous potential downfalls- downfalls that are oftentimes overlooked. In numerous cases, this season is awaited by many because of the sudden influx of relationships around us. Isn’t that crazy? Just when you’re learning to be single, it seems like all of a sudden, everyone wants to jump into relationships, and you, being on your own, start to think that your spacious twin XL bed could have room for one more. Some might attribute this to FOMO (fear of missing out), and some might say it’s the justification people need to not be alone because Winter is actually coming. Regardless of the reason, cuffing season is now a recognized time of the year and that is now upon us. So how are you gonna act?

Battle of the Sexes: Part 1 - "What a Man, What a Mighty Good Man"

So you think you know what makes a man? You believe you can think like them and know what goes on in their heads? What's your justification? Is it personal experience? Is it what your friends have gone through? Is it what you read online, saw in a movie, or heard on the radio? Well, similar to how difficult it can be to understand the complexity of a woman, there is more to a man than meets the eye. There are a significant amount of supposed facts I hear from my female friends and women in my life about men, and more often times than not, it's usually wrong. I feel that the view of men being "dogs" and "good-for-nothing" tends to take precedence over the truth about them. That's not to say that there aren't a good amount of them that promote this stereotype, which makes it hard for women to think otherwise, but a few off colors in a painting shouldn't take away from its beauty. Don't let those guys ruin your perception of men.

Then what is the truth about men?

Battle of the Sexes Series in the Works

Men. As simple as they may seem, there is actually a lot more to them than most people know. My initial motivation for this piece comes from years of hearing about all the problems women have had with "typical men", and how they are no good. This usually stemmed from events, such as a guy breaking a girl's heart or forgetting the things — like anniversaries and dates — that make the biggest difference. So I thought maybe an explanation of how men operate and how they think would help correct some of their misconceptions. My goal is to introduce a new perspective, in hopes to alter the way women see us. This may be an extremely difficult task since Beyonce dropped Lemonade, but I’m up for the challenge. In the process of brainstorming this idea, I decided to add a spin on the piece.

Instead of simply discussing the issue at hand, I wanted to break this down into a blog series. In the first part of this series, I’d explain some of the misconceptions surrounding men. I’d then go on to explain some of the characteristics men believe are necessary to be a man, and why they’re false. After that, I would do the same for the women. The one thing I want everyone to keep in mind is that my words aren't law. Every person in this world is different, so not everything will apply to a single person. However, these pieces will still provide substantial knowledge of the truth behind men and women, and what you should keep in mind about them before you approach or profile them. Now that you have the background, let's get to work.