Courting Your Spec

So, you got someone you’re really interested in, and they have a lot of qualities that you believe will help a relationship to not only grow, but flourish. I presume this is someone you’ve been taking the time to talk to God about as well. If you have been taking the right steps to move intentionally in your dating journey, then I’m sure the next thing you’re thinking about is how to move towards an actual relationship. I want to note that there isn’t necessarily a timeframe between talking with someone initially and when a relationship should start; the key is how your time together is spent. At a certain point though, you will have to take the bold step to officially declare this person as your boyfriend or girlfriend.

Is This Who You Wanted to Become?

Being able to witness a milestone such as entering a new decade calls for a time of self-reflection. Personally, it’s been a time to think about how far I’ve come in the past 10 years; particularly as a result of the environments I’ve found myself in, and the impact they’ve had on my life. But not just my own, but others as well. I get it - we’re all special in our own way thanks to the Man upstairs. But of course, given free will, we make decisions for ourselves. Those decisions have typically been influenced by our environment - whether we were born in a low-income neighborhood or a wealthy one; whether we grew up in a home with one parent or both; whether we went to a HBCU, a PWI, were home-schooled, or didn’t go to school at all - we were all impacted by external factors. But the question is, how did it play a role in how our lives panned out?

February Release: Products of Own Environments

Yeah I know - its March and this is a February release. But this was a theme that kept coming up last month for me, and I'd been taking some time to unpack. The topic is how our environment shapes who we are as individuals. Traditionally, people think of their environment as their living situation - whether or not they were born into an area that was wealthy or low-income. But your environment spans well past physical surroundings. It includes the people, the vibes, the societal beliefs, the upbringing, etc. Because we don't always consider these additional pieces, we don't realize the amount of influence it has on us, and our paths moving forward in life. So let's talk about it - how does our environment shape who we are as people, and what does that mean for us? The post will be released soon!