So, the question is, how do you overcome these insecurities that seem to run so deep in our lives. Well, to get rid of a weed, you take it from its root, and so for our problem, we go to the source.
Let's start with mentality. This is probably one of the most important things to address because it affects most of the other aspects on insecurity. Our mentality is what helps define who we are because its how we think, holds our beliefs, and ultimately influences our actions. For a thing that has such an impact on our lives, it is something that can be easily influenced at times by the remarks and opinions of others. A strong mentality means a strong character, and a strong character won't easily be broken. So how does this play into insecurity? Well, our mentality plays in with confidence and self-esteem, and is basically our defense system against the negativity that comes against us from day to day. I guess you can say its the firewall we have to fight against the viruses that are the things that bring us down, and/or causes our confidence in ourselves to fall. A part of the reason insecurity sticks with us for so long because we become so fragile to anything concerning certain things about ourselves we don't have a strong confidence in. If one has a strong mentality, they can't be so easily influenced by the outside world. So how do you build a strong mentality? It starts with confidence, and building a very strong foundation of it. You can start a day at a time doing little things like making your opinion known and sticking to it, or sharing your thoughts about a topic being discussed. Doing little things like this everyday is meant to help build that foundation of confidence. It may not seem like these kinds of actions will do much, but they have more of an effect than you think. As you get more comfortable with the things you do, the stronger that foundation becomes. The result? Your mentality strengthens and your self-esteem will grow stronger as well because you have built that confidence in yourself that you are an individual and that is perfectly fine. These are just a few examples but there is definitely more you can do. Just try to think small, and crawl before you walk with the ideas. Once you have that comfortable feeling in the things you do, the confidence you have will grow along with your self-esteem. At the base of it all is the mentality that it doesn't matter that you are different than others, because that's what makes you special; that it doesn't matter what others may think, what matters is what you know; and that being an individual means being okay with who you are because you appreciate yourself, and even if every single person doesn't, you will worry about making yourself happy.
The last two aspects deal with the support we have and the society we live in. Support is an important thing because it is what helps uplifts us in our times of trouble, and push us even when we want to give up. When it comes to insecurity, this is key. Even though we may have that confidence in ourselves and are not so easily swayed by the world, it always helps to have those voices telling us we are doing great, that we are amazing people, and that even though the world may be a cruel place, we will prosper. In society, there are views of what people determine is attractive, what is acceptable, who are the good people and the bad, and who will be those welcomed and those ostracized. If you don't fit that "criteria", then life gets a bit harder for you. But who ever said life was easy? That is where that support comes in, from those friends and family we love so dearly, from the people who may not say it, but respect you for who you are, and those we look up to, like teachers and mentors, that will continue to tell us that we matter. And of course, there is our own voice that matters above all, and that is why it is so important to believe in ourselves, and trust that we are unique individuals with gifts that helps us stand out in a good way! Jay-Z said, "Let me be great!" (and some other things after that) and you should take from this that no one should hinder you from doing that. In the end, the person who has the most impact and final say is you. Don't let the world take away from your gifts and blessings. Embrace who you are and don't be afraid to show it. Don't let insecurities rule your life, experiences, and/or relationships . It IS possible to overcome it. It just takes a little work, and a LOT of practice.
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