Wednesday, October 30, 2019

If Your Temple Cracks, Everything Else Will Crumble

“I don’t have time to do it.” “I’ll get to it later.” “My career (or education) comes first.” “I’m too busy.” ‘I’ll be (or I am) fine.” These are some of the excuses people give for not taking care of themselves, and/or not prioritizing their own health over other areas in their lives. I get it – there’s sooooo much we need to get done in any given day, and we feel like doing anything outside of those tasks will put us behind schedule, derail our progress, or set us too far behind. The main reason being is that we don’t see, or understand, the importance of making ourselves not just a priority, but THE priority.

It’s very easy to get caught up in the demands of our daily lives to the point that doing a self-care day, taking a break from studying, or even stepping away from your work to hang out with your friends seems like a waste of time. But if only we understood what we were doing to ourselves. I’m not pointing fingers because I had the same issue, and my friends could tell you just how busy I could get. But they will also tell you that I now make sure I make time to relax and enjoy life because it’s of the utmost importance for our overall health and well-being. There's only so much your body can take before it reaches its limit – and then it may be too late…

So, let’s take a look at some ways not taking care of yourself could affect you:
  • Loss of sleep when you’re spending extra time getting things done
  • Episodes of anxiety when things aren’t going according to plan
  • Flashes of anger due to the long days and long nights
  • Lack of focus since you’re trying to get multiple things done in a short amount of time
  • Feelings of neglect from our families and those we care about
  • Increase in stress levels from the load of tasks we are “balancing”
  • Long-term health deficiencies such as sleep apnea, low testosterone levels, and depression
  • Regret later in life because of how much you missed out on
  • Influx of wrinkles and breakouts on your face
  • Burning Out

These are general examples, but I am using them to illustrate the different areas in your life you will start to see change. When writing this list, I realized that the bigger problem is that since many of these things may not happen until later on in life, we deceive ourselves by thinking we’re okay. Until we can’t fall asleep properly anymore. Until we end up hospitalized because our bodies gave out. Until we come home to a spouse that’s walking out on us. Dramatic? Maybe. Have I seen it happen? Definitely. But again, people won’t believe it until they see it, and I am here to help make sure these don’t come to pass in your life.

So, Leslie, you’ve shown me what not giving myself the proper attention can do, but why is it so important? I’m glad you asked [insert your name here]. Self-care is important because it:
  • Helps you maintain balance in life
  • Keeps your body in good standing and good health
  • Provides breathing room in the midst of life’s chaos
  • Gives you time to yourself and the ones that matter to you
  • Revitalizes your body and supplies a much-needed recharge
  • Produces the energy you need to continue your grind
  • Creates a habit of taking care of yourself so that you can take care of others
  • Reestablishes your body’s rhythms like proper REM cycles
  • Instills a more positive mindset
  • Makes a better you

I won’t bore you by continuing this list but overall, self-care is important because it will determine the outcome of your future. Self-care is our key to a healthy life where every accomplishment is not undermined, every obstacle is not unbeatable, and every day is not a struggle.

Then what can I do? Here are 10 steps you can start with:
  1. Learn to say no to others, especially when you’re already stressed
  2. Take breaks from your electronics and social media, and get active
  3. Set time frames to handle specific tasks and try to avoid working past it
  4. Incorporate at least one healthy item into your meals and eat regularly
  5. When you feel overwhelmed, take a step back to just breathe and recalibrate yourself
  6. Write down the things you accomplish each day to motivate yourself and boost morale
  7. Establish a sleep routine to ensure you’re getting at least a decent amount of rest each night
  8. Remove the takers from your life who will continue to extract as much from you as they can
  9. Use 30 min. – 1 hr. of your day to do something nice for yourself (maybe even unplug for a day)
  10. Address stress levels through calming activities like meditation, journaling or taking a warm bath
And many of these things don’t take much time or effort. You have 24 hours in a day. If you spent 8 hours actually sleeping, 9 hours a day working, 2-3 hours for all your meals, you would still have at least have 3 hours a day to utilize effectively. As I stated above, don’t make yourself the last priority; make yourself THE priority. The only way you can continue to pour into others and be effective in life is by taking care of the person doing all the work – you.

Overall, I just want everyone to understand that a lifestyle constantly on the go, and/or overworking yourself, may seem beneficial now but will ultimately end up being your downfall. People will always take as much as you’re willing to give, and you can’t give if your well runs dry. Why do you think airlines advise you to put on your air mask first before helping others? You’re not much help to people burnt out or stressed out. And pouring into others shouldn’t be the sole reason for taking care of yourself; you should take care of yourself because it’s your life and well-being. If you won’t place higher value on your health and welfare, who will?

I can’t stress enough how crucial self-care is to a successful life. The sooner you start to realize it, the better. You may still be thinking that everything’s good because nothing significantly bad has happened to you yet, but you’re already setting yourself up for failure by convincing yourself that it will all somehow work itself out. Please don’t let it be too late before you realize the truth in my words because when it’s too late, it’s actually too late.

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