Happy Valentine's Day! I just wanted to share 6 tidbits of information with you all to bear in mind as we near the end of this day. During this season of love, you may realize that there are people who place too much emphasis on the need to go above and beyond on this specific day, individuals who make this holiday more about material items opposed to the actual showing of love to a special someone, and those who become really downtrodden watching others on social media enjoy the company of their partners while they're at home, single, re-watching The Notebook for the 5th time in a row. Everyone handles today differently, so it's not just limited to the aforementioned stereotypical people. However, society creates an atmosphere where people feel like they have to be with someone, and/or if you do have someone, that today is the one day for you to really show you care about them. So I wanted to give you all some input to assure you that you don't have to follow either trend, and that where you are in your life, committed or single, is perfectly fine. Don't let society dictate your life.
1. This saying gets beaten to death but Valentine's Day is not the only time of the year to show someone you care. You shouldn't even need a holiday, much less a reason, to want to do something special for those you care about, or show them how much you love them. So don't overemphasize today as a make-or-break holiday that determines just how much someone means to you.
2. Valentine's Day is not about the material things you get from it. So if your man doesn't do the absolute most like you see happening to others on social media, don't take it to heart. The material things shouldn't be used to measure his love and care. The same goes for guys who may receive something from their woman. It's the thought that counts.
3. If you are single, do not feel pressured to either spend today with someone, or jump into a relationship. The last thing you want to do is end up in a situation because of a decision you made on a whim. As much as it may suck to see other people all boo'd up and doing bae things, don't let it push you to make a rash decision. How about you treat yourself today?
4. If you are in a relationship, try to do something nice for your partner. It doesn't have to be something crazy expensive, or extra extravagant; a genuine gesture to show them that they are special to you will suffice. If you do go all out, by all means go right ahead, but just don't feel like it's mandatory. If it's forced, it's not right.
5. Be mindful of those who may be going through some hard times in the love or relationship department. If you're single, maybe you can go do something nice with that person to take both of your minds off of it. If you're committed, maybe you could send them something encouraging to lift their spirits. The smallest gesture can go a long way.
6. Let today be more of a focus on love. For my singles out there, concentrate on self-love, and learning to love who you are as a person because before you can even share your love with others, you have to learn to love yourself. For my committed people, take it as an opportunity to remember and embrace why you're with that special someone in the first place. The goal here is to be positive, and understand that you don't have to follow society's views.
The moral of the story is to not overthink today. If you are happy where you are, don't let outside pressures change that. If you're in between a rock and a hard place, and aren't sure how to treat today, you can treat it like any other day (because it is a Wednesday). But don't feel like today you have this unspoken responsibility to fit society's mold of how Valentine's Day should be spent. Just do you. At the end of the day, tomorrow will come, you'll be back to normal life, and today will be a memory.
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