Women. God’s gift to man … and your worst nightmare! Just kidding. Women - God’s gift to man, and yet the hardest gift in the world to understand, to the point where graduate students still struggle to understand how women operate. My uncle has his Master’s degree in Psychology and still struggles to comprehend them. Have you seen the meme where the guy is solving thousands of complex math problems and “The Guide to Women: Chapter 1” is the caption?
Accurate. But just because women are so hard to understand at times, doesn’t mean it’s impossible. It just takes time, open ears, communication, practice, studying, and of course, a lot of prayer. The first step you can take to understanding women is realizing the knowledge you may have about them isn’t necessarily true. Just how well do you think you know women?
One thing I will mention ahead of time is that if you think you know women very well, you are already going down the wrong path. You need to read this with a mindset that is open to learning and understanding new things. When it comes to women, any assistance you can get helps a great deal. For now, to direct you to the right path, the discussion will begin with the misconceptions guys tend to have about women. These can be anything from the stereotypes seen on TV to the information heard by word of mouth. A lot of these misconceptions seem to still be prominent today, and that means it’s still an issue. Once you can differentiate the rumors from the truth, how you interact with women and how you view them will be positively impacted. I figure a post such as this shouldn’t be necessary, but when it comes to women, there are always new things to learn.
So by popular vote, here are the misconceptions that women believe guys get wrong the most:
Every woman is different, and I don’t mean they have multiple personalities (shoutout Beyonce). Just like I said about guys, the same applies here. That means that something you may take away from one woman could be completely useless for another. I feel most people have had enough interactions with women to understand how different they can be. Now, don’t get me wrong, there are some women that do fall under some similar stereotypes, but again, you shouldn’t generalize a whole group based on a few people. Women are similar in a sense that they like to be appreciated, loved, noticed, and treated fairly, but they each have different characters. So don’t go treating every woman as if they’re the same and then turn around and be surprised when one woman has different likes, dislikes, and mannerisms from another. Just be prepared to start the learning process over again.
I catch feelings, not flights. There seems to be a belief that women aren’t as sexual as men; that they can’t have sexual relations without catching feelings. To many people’s surprise, this is quite wrong. Just as a guy has needs, women have needs as well, and sometimes they just want to satisfy that need. That’s it. How’d the song go? “I just need a quickie.” So don’t be surprised if she’s not hitting you up everyday, or at all, after something goes down. And please don’t activate your Drake-mode because of it - we got enough of those. But also, don’t assume every woman is this way. This is why communication is so important. My point is that women play the game, too; so be careful and don’t sleep on them.
Women just want to tie men down. This ties back to my previous point. Not all women want relationships. Some are taking the time to figure themselves out, get their lives in order, or just enjoy life. Granted some women are more conservative about things like “hook ups” and the connections they make, but that doesn’t constitute that they are looking for relationships. Some women just like being around guys, or talking to them, as opposed to other women. There are a lot of different reasons a woman could be hanging around a guy or trying to get close to one. That’s why it’s in your best interest to get a better understanding of what she wants and not assume. You may end up ruining the relationship or getting your feelings hurt.
They can be one of the guys, too. The stereotype is that guys are the only ones that like sports, games, and other “manly” things. But I’ve been quite surprised at the knowledge some women have about sports teams and skill level some have in video games. Women tend to have similar interests as guys, and so they shouldn’t be counted out. And if you do find a woman who has these interests - you better put a ring on it ASAP! Just kidding. Having these qualities doesn’t automatically make her a great person. Because of that, I’d say take your time and keep her close.
Guys feel they have to act up or cheat to keep a woman. I think this is just outright dumb. I don’t know in what world this makes sense, but it’s the best way to stay single if you ask me. I guess to some, acting up is a way of keeping things exciting. But the second is unacceptable. I hope I don’t have to justify why you shouldn’t do either of these actions. Just avoid doing them if you want to keep a woman happy.
Guys think women are weak because they show emotion. Women are tender, loving, and caring, almost to a fault, but that doesn’t make them weak. Look at how they have shown out with the recent events in the African-American community. I see that as a symbol of strength and versatility. They may not express their power the same way a man does, but that doesn’t mean they lack it. So don’t belittle women for having hearts. It’s one of their sources of strength.
Women are naive, gullible, and unaware of the games being played. Many people believe that women are actually smarter than men. Be smart about how you act around women and the things you do. If I know anything about women, it’s these two facts - they seem to know everything, even when you think they don’t and they never forget anything. Keep those two things in mind when you want to play games, or make questionable decisions. It could cost you your life (but actually).
I think that covers a great deal and should be enough knowledge for now. In the end, I just want to provide insight to better understand women. I know it can be challenging - almost always - but if you have a better sense of who they are and where they’re coming from, it makes things a lot easier. The challenge will differ from woman to woman, but as long as you are not still holding on to the misconceptions above, and understand the truth about them, you are well on your way.
To my women, try to help the fellas out in understanding you. Help us help you. It will help save a lot of trouble down the road. To my fellas - good luck.
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